Well.. in my long hours of having nothing to do in my home, since my internet and everything else seems to not be working at the moment.. I have had time to think about, through conversations with friends and through personal revelation things about “RELATIONSHIPS”
First of all, I just would like to clear up one thing. “soul Mates” are fiction and an illusion; and while everyone will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and good woman can have happiness and a successful Relationship if both are willing to pay the price…..
Almost all Relationships could be beautiful, harmonious, and happy ones, if the two people primarily involved would determine that it should be, that it must be, that it will be.
Happiness does not come from pressing a button, as does an electric light; happiness is a state of mind and comes from within. It must be earned. It cannot be purchased with money; it cannot be taken for nothing.
Some think happiness as a glamorous life of ease, luxury, and constant thrills; but a true couple is based on happiness which is more that that, one which comes from giving, serving, sharing, sacrificing, and selflessness.
When people get together learn soon that stark reality must be faced. There is no longer a life of fantasy or make-believe; we must come out of the clouds and put our feet firmly on the earth. Responsibility must be assumed and new duties must be accepted. Some personal freedoms must be relinquished, and many adjustments, unselfish adjustments, must be made.
One comes to realize soon after dating that the significant other has weaknesses not previously revealed or discovered. The virtues which were constantly magnified during the “Infatuation” stage of the relationship now grow relatively smaller, and the weaknesses which seemed so small and insignificant during that same time now grow to sizeable portions. The time has come for understanding hearts, for self-appraisal, and for good common sense, reasoning and planning….
A relationship commenced and based upon reasonable standards…, there are not combinations of power which can destroy it except the power within either or both of the persons themselves; and they must assume the responsibility generally. Other people and agencies may influence for good or for bad, Financial, social, political and other situations may seem to have a bearing; but the relationship depends first and always on the two, who can always make their relationship successful and happy if they are determined and unselfish.
Am I ahead of my time…? Should I screw around at my young age and forget all these things that to me make perfect sense? Maybe… but I never did like wasting my time.
Those are my current Ravings…
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
Integrity..?
Here is sometihng I wrote on Integrity awhile abck.. and I just found it.
"Integrity is a state or quality of being complete, undivided, or unbroken. It is wholeness and inimpaired. It is purity and moral soundness. t is unadulturated henuineness and deep serenity. It is courage, a human virtue of incapable value. It is honesty and uprightness.
Integrity in individuals or corporate bodies is not to ask, "what will others think of me, and my practices?" but, "what do I think of myself if I do this or fail to do that?" Is it proper? Is it right?
Integrity in man Should bring Inner peace, sureness of purpose, and security in action. Lack of it brings the reverse, disunity, fear, surrow, unsureness."
Reading that again just made me think.. as I often do.
I think some of us need to take some kind of personal inventory to see if hidden away under the rugs and in the corners of our lives there might be some vestige of hypocracy and uglyness of error. Or could there be hidden under the blankets of personal excuse and rationalization some small eccentricities and dishonesties? Are there cobwebs in ceilings and corners which we think will not be noticed? Are we trying to cover up the small pettinesses and the small gratifications we secretly allow ourselves rationalizing the while that they are insignificant and unconsequential? Are there areas in our thoughts and actions and attitudes which we would like to hide from those we respect most?
Again... something to chew... I need to get out of this house and stop getting philosophical on you.
"Integrity is a state or quality of being complete, undivided, or unbroken. It is wholeness and inimpaired. It is purity and moral soundness. t is unadulturated henuineness and deep serenity. It is courage, a human virtue of incapable value. It is honesty and uprightness.
Integrity in individuals or corporate bodies is not to ask, "what will others think of me, and my practices?" but, "what do I think of myself if I do this or fail to do that?" Is it proper? Is it right?
Integrity in man Should bring Inner peace, sureness of purpose, and security in action. Lack of it brings the reverse, disunity, fear, surrow, unsureness."
Reading that again just made me think.. as I often do.
I think some of us need to take some kind of personal inventory to see if hidden away under the rugs and in the corners of our lives there might be some vestige of hypocracy and uglyness of error. Or could there be hidden under the blankets of personal excuse and rationalization some small eccentricities and dishonesties? Are there cobwebs in ceilings and corners which we think will not be noticed? Are we trying to cover up the small pettinesses and the small gratifications we secretly allow ourselves rationalizing the while that they are insignificant and unconsequential? Are there areas in our thoughts and actions and attitudes which we would like to hide from those we respect most?
Again... something to chew... I need to get out of this house and stop getting philosophical on you.
Monday, February 19, 2007
Food for... thought??
Iv been thinking about this recently through simple little things I have tried to do for people.
If we focus on simple principles and simple acts of service, we will see that organizational lines soon lose some of their significance. Too often in the past, organizational lines in things we have systematically set oursleves into in our lives, habits, comfort zones ect. have become walls that have kept us from reaching out to individuals as completely as we should. We will also find as we become less concerned with getting organizational or individual credit that we will become more concerned with serving the ones we may be charged to reach. We will also find ourselves becoming less concerned with out organizational identity and more concerned with our true and ultimate identity and helping others to achieve the same sense of belonging.
Service to others deepens and sweetens this life while we are trying to live in a better world. It is by serving that we learn how to serve. When we are engaged in the service of our "fellowm-en", not only do our deeds assist them, but we put our own problems in a fresher perspective. When we concern ourselves more with others, there si less time to be concerned with oursleves!
Helping out barb for example, although I was there and worked hard for 10 hours... she tried to pay me but I refused to take her money... after spending so much time with her and talking to her I realised that she has alot bigger problems than I do... and although i was broke and very easilly could have taken the money she was very willingly trying to give me, I couldn't take it from her.
I know a man whose every thought through all of his life had been for anf of himself... He had sought to keep his life for himself and to gather all the good things of liufe for his own development and enjoyment. Strangely enough, trying to keep his life for himself... he has shrunk, has lost his friends and his family and will probably end up being alone for the rest of his life.
As we seek true happyness... we must expand our energies for purposes larger than our own self interest...
My current thoughts...
Kylian
If we focus on simple principles and simple acts of service, we will see that organizational lines soon lose some of their significance. Too often in the past, organizational lines in things we have systematically set oursleves into in our lives, habits, comfort zones ect. have become walls that have kept us from reaching out to individuals as completely as we should. We will also find as we become less concerned with getting organizational or individual credit that we will become more concerned with serving the ones we may be charged to reach. We will also find ourselves becoming less concerned with out organizational identity and more concerned with our true and ultimate identity and helping others to achieve the same sense of belonging.
Service to others deepens and sweetens this life while we are trying to live in a better world. It is by serving that we learn how to serve. When we are engaged in the service of our "fellowm-en", not only do our deeds assist them, but we put our own problems in a fresher perspective. When we concern ourselves more with others, there si less time to be concerned with oursleves!
Helping out barb for example, although I was there and worked hard for 10 hours... she tried to pay me but I refused to take her money... after spending so much time with her and talking to her I realised that she has alot bigger problems than I do... and although i was broke and very easilly could have taken the money she was very willingly trying to give me, I couldn't take it from her.
I know a man whose every thought through all of his life had been for anf of himself... He had sought to keep his life for himself and to gather all the good things of liufe for his own development and enjoyment. Strangely enough, trying to keep his life for himself... he has shrunk, has lost his friends and his family and will probably end up being alone for the rest of his life.
As we seek true happyness... we must expand our energies for purposes larger than our own self interest...
My current thoughts...
Kylian
Sunday, February 18, 2007
I'm Tired...
I'm real tired...
Was talkin to Darian via webcam/mic for awhile... played some games... and then nig was ruined by bad news of party cancellation tommorow night... sigh
I'm pretty upset about it right now. Maybe I can still get together with some people and do something.. perhaps go sleding again now that my body has healed from its last torment. Hit some jumps.. break spome bones, good times.
Anyways, I'm really psyiched to start learning some dances this week. Everytime i listen to Footloose music I picture some sweet dances to go with it and I get so pumped.
Alright, cheers boyos.
Was talkin to Darian via webcam/mic for awhile... played some games... and then nig was ruined by bad news of party cancellation tommorow night... sigh
I'm pretty upset about it right now. Maybe I can still get together with some people and do something.. perhaps go sleding again now that my body has healed from its last torment. Hit some jumps.. break spome bones, good times.
Anyways, I'm really psyiched to start learning some dances this week. Everytime i listen to Footloose music I picture some sweet dances to go with it and I get so pumped.
Alright, cheers boyos.
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Points of Authority
So, today was Valentines day. I went in to Barb's store around 9:30 - 10:00 and was there untill 8ish.... that was alot of flowers for one day.. even Valentines day. I mean I ran around all day bringing girlfriends flowers for happy couples.
Whatever, it was all worth it though. Barb is such a nice lady I was glad to help her out, and besides... I wasn't really looking for anything else to do on Valentines :P
Anyways, when it got late and the store was closed up Barb and I had a very good chat about life.
The whole love thing, I suppose I was having a bad day... heh, theres is still alot of truth I beleive in what I said that day. But its not all true. Theres something about me, you know if I'm going to fall in love I'm going to put my whole heart into it. If I am going to love someone at all its going to be to the fullest that i can give it. Because you know what, as much as I may get hurt or disappointed or not have those feelings returned. I at least I had the chance to be in love, and although that sounds chessy... well fuck you, I'm a chessy kinda guy. I mean so far I have had nothing but dissapointments in the end, but hey.. I wouldn't change the good moments as real or unreal as they may have been, they were real to me and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
well... its 5am now.. and I'm still up... im gonna go to bed.
Happy Valentines day... heh
Whatever, it was all worth it though. Barb is such a nice lady I was glad to help her out, and besides... I wasn't really looking for anything else to do on Valentines :P
Anyways, when it got late and the store was closed up Barb and I had a very good chat about life.
The whole love thing, I suppose I was having a bad day... heh, theres is still alot of truth I beleive in what I said that day. But its not all true. Theres something about me, you know if I'm going to fall in love I'm going to put my whole heart into it. If I am going to love someone at all its going to be to the fullest that i can give it. Because you know what, as much as I may get hurt or disappointed or not have those feelings returned. I at least I had the chance to be in love, and although that sounds chessy... well fuck you, I'm a chessy kinda guy. I mean so far I have had nothing but dissapointments in the end, but hey.. I wouldn't change the good moments as real or unreal as they may have been, they were real to me and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
well... its 5am now.. and I'm still up... im gonna go to bed.
Happy Valentines day... heh
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